How much interaction do the Surrogate and Intended Parents have ?

The level of interaction between the Surrogate and Intended Parents is a personal preference between the parties. You will need to decide how much interaction you are comfortable with, and also consider how much interaction the other parties to the Surrogacy expect. Some Intended Parents like high levels of interaction; i.e., regular updates via e-mail and/or phone, and the expectation to attend as many of the doctor appointments as possible.

It is highly important to some Intended Parents to be "included" in the PREGNANCY. Similarly, some Surrogates also desire a close relationship with their IP/s and may be disappointed if the Intended Parent/s did not maintain regular contact with them throughout the PREGNANCY and beyond. Many Surrogates and Intended Parent/s hope to have a life-long friendship even after the birth, and some correspond throughout the life of the child.

A percentage of Intended Parents and Surrogates commit to a fairly low level of contact such as occasional updates and phone calls - but do not necessarily want a close relationship. This type of Surrogacy is more of a "business arrangement." Some IP/s may not be able to (or may choose not to) attend doctor appointments and may not see the Surrogate very often (or at all) throughout the pregnancy. A lot of Surrogates may also prefer this type of relationship because they may already have their hands full in their own lives, and may not desire an overly close relationship with their Surrogates.

Before entering into contract together, it is important that the IP/s and Surrogate discuss what would be a desirable level of contact between throughout the pregnancy and beyond.